Tonight Aaron and I went to a small group for married couples from our church. We've never gone before - mostly because we've been out of school, or I've had school stuff going on, we've forgotten, etc. So we finally made it tonight, and I think it was a really good time! We've had a hard time finding a church that really fits us and that has people who want to meet new people. Aaron and I met at a church here in town, but it felt like once we got married the married couples at that church didn't really give us the time of day. I know we are a fairly young couple, but to me it seems like that is all the more reason for the older married couples to reach out to us... But, that didn't really happen. So we tried a few other churches in town - one with really friendly people, almost too friendly! Again, we had a hard time finding people to connect with. Sometimes I feel like my career choice gets in the way of meeting other married women. I have never wanted to be a stay at home mom - don't get me wrong, I want to be a mom. And I have a bit of a mom complex because I sort of idolize my mom who has completed devoted herself to her family! Anyway, some of the couples Aaron and I have met along our church journey have been really nice people, but I felt like I couldn't get to know the woman because she already had all of her other mommy friends established. Or, if they didn't have kids, they weren't that far off from having kids, so their friends all had kids. So, all of this to say, I think we've found a church where we click. :) There is a big range of people who go to the church, but they have all been very friendly to us. And there are little things I appreciate, like in this small group there is a couple that is expecting and they also have a 18 month old - the couple get a babysitter so they can get out and be a married couple and the mom can have time where she doesn't have to be a mommy. I appreciate it as a relatively newly married person, and I think it is probably really healthy for them too!
I've missed having a community like this. I'm excited. :)
Nurses
9 years ago
3 comments:
Cool! I'm glad you feel like you "fit in" somewhere. It's nice because our group has 3 couples with 1 baby each and 2 couples with no children. I'm glad we're not the only childless couple :) Hope you have a great weekend!
I totally remember having the same struggles finding other couples to 'click' with - especially since Monte and I have basically opposite personalities. I'm glad the couples meeting went well - especially since it meant you had to miss Gray's!
You know, I remember when we were just married and we were friends with Steve and Lora Schultze, who had a baby, and Todd and Brenda Thompson, who had a baby. It seemed like everyone had babies. Then we moved to Bode and no one had babies. We were the only ones with little kids (or so it seemed). Eventually when we moved to Hubbard we finally found a group where we "matched" with kids. :)
I understand the stage of life. Glad to hear you had fun!
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